Why I Don’t Want the Answers

By Rebecca Potts, Academic Services Coordinator

When I was in school (if I can remember that far back), I had two different types of teachers.  I actually had several different types, but let’s pretend it was just these two. One would open the textbook, read word for word what the author had written and teach me by telling me what someone else thought.  The tests were copies of the sentences we read, convincing us that memorization and critical thinking were one and the same. The other would teach by asking us to challenge what was on the page; to conclude on our own how the writer developed their theories and viewpoints.  They presented material and actually wanted to know our opinions and ideas about it. How would we change it? How would we build upon it? How does it make us feel?

Long story short, I learned a lot more from the teachers who asked me questions than the ones who handed me answers, which is no coincidence.  Humans tend to be very egocentric, meaning that we place the importance of our own beliefs and values above others. If it’s not our idea, it’s much more difficult for us to accept, which is why your kids don’t want to clean their rooms.  It was definitely not their idea. When we are given the opportunity to come to our own conclusions, we not only learn faster and retain more, but we also gain the ability to explain and defend our beliefs, which gives us passion.

So the next time your child has a dirty bedroom, make them think it was their idea to clean it. How? I have absolutely no idea. We’re coaches…you’ll think of the right questions!

 

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