“I missed two items on the exam.” I heard this from a coaching student last week. He smiled and went on to say, “the perfectionist in me wanted to get 100%.”
I asked him, “How is missing two even MORE perfect than getting a perfect score?” This led to an interesting conversation that uncovered these possibilities:
> Perfection is present everywhere. Right here. Right now.
> Unexpected or unwanted circumstances cause us to learn, which causes us to grow.
> There is always more growth to be had. If we are not growing, we are stagnant, atrophying, boring.
> Perfection cues our brains to focus on: “I am enough. I have enough. There is always enough.”
> When we focus on the “enough” that surrounds us, we feel safe.
> Feeling safe allows us to feel better, which allows us to think better, which allows us to behave (take action) better, which allows us to get more of what we want.
How are your unexpected or unwanted circumstances actually “perfect” for you today?